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  • Writer's pictureTyra Berger

Am I madly in love or do I love you too much …Is that even a thing?

Simply put, yes. It is a thing, but not in the romantic way that it may sound. It is also still a thing to be madly in love with someone, like when the person is on your mind all day, every day, you can’t wait to see them again, even if you just left them, you have a euphoric feeling about hem, you always make time for them, you might day dream about them and smile…awwww “le sigh”.  BUT… when does this become too much? Being madly in love is magical but it can also become unhealthy. The difference is this intense love you feel can turn into you obsessing or trying to control your partner. Just like with many things in life (eating, drinking, shopping etc.), having too much of something can be harmful, and loving someone too much can cause intense behaviors that can be harmful for your relationship. Here are 5 signs that you love your partner too much:

1. You Need Excessive Communication

2. Abandoning your own Friends/Family/Hobbies

3. Disrespecting Partners Boundaries

4. Needing Constant Attention

5. Keeping Tabs on Partner

As you can see there is a huge different between the intense feelings of being madly in love and loving too much. One reason the line gets crossed is the person who loves too much may have insecure or anxious attachment. People with this attachment style often feel that their loved ones or romantic partners will abandon them, which causes them to feel anxious and insecure in their relationships. Anxious attachment also means that they have an intense emotional need for love and attention, which causes them to love too much.

Loving someone too much also likely means you are likely neglecting yourself. It is important if you find yourself in this position to try to set healthy boundaries in your relationship. The type of boundaries you can set can be things like communicating needs, having a sense of independence within the relationship, not overcompensating and making sure to prioritize self-care.

To learn more about attachment style and find out what your attachment style is, click here.

Healthy relationships lead to long-lasting relationships. 


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